Friday, November 14, 2014

Reason And Emotion

Neither emotion nor logic and reasoning are easy to deal with, independent of the other. Everything that happens around us evokes an emotional response, even logic. Reasoning, because it takes more practice of the mind, is not as easily understood as an emotional response which is why an emotional response is most common. Humans are very prideful so it's not easy to be reprimanded or corrected in something that comes naturally to us, which are our emotions. In fact, emotions are so deep that sometimes we attempt to rationalize them without even realising it.

Let's not forget that we all have emotions.  


A lot of us are drowning in them because some of us find it so difficult to reason with our own emotions, that we find other people's emotions completely unbearable.  

I don't like to be told to calm down when I get angry, so I don't expect other people to. 
I don't like to be told to stop crying when I feel sad or disappointed, so I don't ask other people to. 
I sometimes laugh at ridiculous things, so I don't hold it against other people for laughing "inappropriately."

Of course, that principal becomes far more intricate when addressing harmful behavior (a topic for another day).


But understanding emotion, is a great way to begin to understand other people. We all differ because of our mental capacity and our overall experience with life. But ultimately we are all made up of the same dynamic.



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Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Sinister Innocence

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Some people seem to have a natural aversion to the mistakes that other people make.  While I don't condone the notion of continuously making the same mistakes while justifying them with the ideology that "we're only human"; something about this way of thinking always bothered me.  

At first I thought perhaps it's because I've made my share of mistakes and I don't like the feeling of being counted out.  But I learned to accept that no matter what I am in life, someone will always count me out.  So that was not the problem.  I also thought maybe I dislike this way of thinking simply because I dislike generalizations; but that's not quite it either.

Well, this morning I read something on facebook and somehow the reason just slapped me in the face this time:

"There is something far more sinister about a person who is able to hide their demons than those who wear their carelessness on their sleeves."

The person who is more careless is easy to reprimand, but the one who cleverly hides their deceit is difficult to fault.  The person who runs behind popular culture but continuously falls is easy to deny and to not want around because their lack of direction is obvious.  But the cunningness of the one's who master the art of putting on the mask...they are the one's who should be feared.

I may expand on it later; but for now, it's just a thought.

Live Consciously

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Thursday, September 25, 2014

Art of War Quote

Although it requires courage to treat of those matters of which others have made a profession, none the less, I do not believe that it is a mistake to occupy a position with words, which may, with greater presumption, have been occupied with deeds; for the errors which I should make in writing can be corrected without injury to anyone, but those which are made with deeds cannot be found out except by the ruin of the commanders.
~Niccilo Machiavelli, The Art of War

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Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Good and Evil

Everything that is broken was once whole 


but not everything that is whole was never broken. 

Nothing breaks without force 


and nothing fixes without effort.

Force is not the enemy 


and effort is not the friend...

But the mind of the man 


Is either good or evil.


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Thursday, August 14, 2014

Listen to me

As the voices raise up around us
Cries for help
Cries for hope
We cry in tears that cannot be heard
Tears that will not be heard
Our tears are not without
As we are not without
They must be heard within
For who hears my cry 
If not I
Who sees my tears if not me
Reflect
Reflect on the voices around us
Let them hear the cries within us
And let the cries within us
See the tears around us

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Last Tweet of Philosopher Maya Angelou

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Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Depression is Real

Robin Williams: July 21, 1951 - August 11, 2014


Today I found that the tragic suicidal death of Robin Williams has become a platform for many people to open up and admit that they suffer depression and have (or have had) thoughts of suicide.

This is important.

I've been through depression (I use the word "been" very loosely).  There are a lot of emotions that flow through a person at that time and it can be very difficult - and evidently even impossible - to process all of the emotion at once.  I think ultimately, the more questions we are unable to answer, the deeper we sink into depression.  I also think that part of the reason why human beings are so collectively compassionate toward losing someone to suicide and depression is because sorrow is something that we all understand.  But we live in a world where so much emphasis is placed on positive energies such as, happiness, success, belonging, possession, and qualities such as smiles, courtesy and helpfulness; that when we are faced with an absence of such things, we hardly know what to do with ourselves.
Why do we pretend that emotions that occur at the other end of the spectrum do not or should not exist?
Why is it so difficult for us to relate to persons who are going through depression?
Why is it that when we are unable to harness positive energy, we say that we are weak?

Letting go of hurt is not easy. Hearts break in silence and heals only with time.  Unfortunately, sometimes we hold on for so long that the silence kills us. We sometimes fear that because the things inside of us are not common, they are ugly and have no place in the world. And when we lose, we fear that we have nothing left to lose.  But at the end of the day, it is not the receiving of love that strengthens us but rather the understanding that we are indeed capable of loving something more than we love ourselves.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Musings From a Past life

Snippets from 'The Outlet' when it was but a single post page at Letting Go of Gone


Tuesday July 15th, 2014
LIVING IN THE BALANCE

Outwardly, we not only strive for, but we crave comfort, validation, knowledge and power.  But in the manner of what true virtue is; 
If we are to find comfort, we must learn discontent. 
If we are to find validation, we must learn our faults.  
If we are to find knowledge, we must learn to recognize the boundaries of ignorance. 
If we are to gain power, we must learn the servitude of submission.

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Friday July 11th, 2014
LIVE CONSCIOUSLY

Though you and I both may see at the same time, the same strip of cloth, in the same light, in the same context...if I see with my eyes and you see with your eyes; then the one strip of cloth is seen twice in two different ways.

There is a nagging diablo who sits in wait at the gates of our mouths to cause the intention of our thought to be misconstrued.  But when there is no thought at all, he humors himself with light words that are forever stained upon our lips.

In other words...Think before you speak; don't allow your words to make a fool of you.

Personal Accountability

There is no harm in identifying the origin of a problem, dilemma, quandary, predicament, etc.  But we should be careful to not focus so much attention on the origin of things that we forget the fact of things--or in other words, we forget the current situation.  We cannot change the things that were done in the past, we can only learn from them or suffer of them.

The longer it takes for us to determine a solution to an unwelcomed situation, the more intricate it becomes.  Of course, solutions are not very easily spoken into existence.   As it was it high school, name calling and finger pointing are both childish and pointless.

The best to be done is to assume a position of personal accountability.  Stand against the things we are not convicted to stand for.  An individual is not always the entire effect of a solutions, but the solution must undoubtedly begin with the individual.

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